As you know we have been discussing the topic of confidence. As a coach I guide clients to become confident in themselves. I use small successes to get my clients to where they want to be. You haven’t tried coaching and you want to make changes in your life I invite you to try it. Reach out to me today and secure a spot. We can connect in many ways. You do not have to be local. with today’s technology we can connect virtually anywhere and anytime. Let’s have that conversation and connect.
I have been busy reviewing new coaching courses. Looked at a mindfulness course. Lastly I am reviewing a revamped Reiki course. I find it very refreshing to constantly be honing my skills as time permits. Now for today’s topic.
Tips on Boosting Self-Confidence for Teens
Whether you’re a male or female teen, your self-confidence is important. While the emphasis is often on girls’ self-esteem, boys need to be confident, too, and often struggle just as much (although perhaps in different areas). Here are some tips to help teens build their self-confidence.
Recognize Your Talents
It’s easy to blow off your abilities, especially if your peers make fun of them (and they probably do so out of jealousy). But get serious with yourself and make a list of things you love to do and are good at. Keep this list just for yourself and look at it often. Remember it when you flunk a test or say something you wish you hadn’t. Those talents of yours won’t go away, and you can rely on them for the rest of your life…as long as you cultivate them.
Cultivate Your Abilities
You may have so many interests and abilities that it’s impossible to develop them all; or, you may have one thing you really love to do. Regardless, look into developing and using some of your abilities in applications beyond school. Not only will it open more opportunities to look for activities around your community, but it might also remove you from peer judgment.
Be Like a Duck
Have you ever heard the expression that you should be like a duck and let negative words and attitudes roll off your back? It’s a good thing to cultivate – if you take every criticism or off-hand comment to heart, you might find yourself paralyzed with fear of other’s judgment. Remember, school and teenage-hood are not forever. You will get out of this stage and you shouldn’t let the criticisms of others sabotage your future, which lasts a lot longer than middle and high school!
Resist the Urge to Compare
When you look at your friends, classmates, or pictures of celebrities, try to resist the temptation to scrutinize them as the gold standard to which you should aspire. Someone will always have better legs, superior athletic prowess, nicer hair, etc. than you. But those people don’t set the standard for you; you are who you are, and they can’t measure up to that, either!
Listen to the Inner Voice – Then Tell It to Shut Up
Stop and listen to your inner thoughts for a while. What do you automatically think of yourself in response to certain situations? What do you say to yourself when you wake up, interact with friends, or go to class? If you are tearing yourself down with negative thoughts, you need to stop. Address the negative self-talk and replace it with positive self-talk instead. I personally where a rubber band on my wrist for this. when I have a negative thought I give it a quick snap, to take me back to reality. Our mind can quickly distort what is real.
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This is where I excel. Working with you and overcoming the mysteries of the mind. If any of this reminds you of you. reach out and lets talk.
I hope you enjoyed this post. I look forward to hearing your thoughts & input.
I am here to help you soar to your success from zero to the top. It is your life live it by your design. May you have success in your day today!
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Until next time – Live life unlimited.